I confess I’ve a problem with the last sentence: cherished because you’re a black woman? Wouldn’t it be more accurate, and less like the flip side of a coin, to say that what you want (and deserve, imo) is to be cherished for who you are, including blackness, womanhood and all? Just asking; I have to say the idea of being cherished because I’m a male, middle-aged paleface sounds seriously unappetizing as opposed to being cherished for who I am, paleness, maleness, Uncle Tom Cobley and all. But then that might be just me and maybe even appreciating being cherished on a ‘character’ basis is part of my ‘privilege’. Feel free to comment on anything I’ve written here, and spare not.