I wonder if, with too many males (I can't call them 'men' in good conscience; I call overgrown boys AMHs, for Adult Male Hominids) just letting them know if they mess with you they'll be singing soprano the rest of their earthly existence might be what it takes for peace, along with acting accordingly. Then again, they'll probably tell their buds what emasculators y'all are--but what do you want with THEIR buddies anyway? What have you to lose by becoming 'invisible' to AMHs anyway? Seriously.