The latter. Part of this is, my faith tells me that the strong need to help uplift the weak, not abandon them. I also feel following this dictum became a LOT more important to do on November 6.

My wife is weaker than I am in that 1) she's much quicker to despair than I and 2) appreciably less adaptable. I agreed to a move in the hope that Linda returning to her birth locale might help her. That's what I hoped for--but no dice.

I'm more of a 'wherever you go, there you are' person, but I've never been unhappier to be only too right.