This reminds me of something from my single days, now nearly 26 years ago. When I decided, 'I'm not looking for anyone anymore! I'll concentrate on taking good care of me and my cat, since that's all I have!' Only a few months later, I met the woman who became my (late) first wife. I wonder, did I switch my 'vibes' or something? That is, did I lose any 'desperate' vibes I might have had?