wonder if my photography plays a part in this.

I think I can safely say it does. The photo I saw of you is erotic in a way that sort of creeps up on me. By this I mean, while it's not in-your-face, the erotic quality is there; it can be sensed. Refreshing, really, in a way. On the other hand, it does play only a part. That is, what you write is still the main thing by a long chalk, as our cousins might say.